Forgive or Forget

Hey y’all and welcome back to!

Let me just start off by saying thank you for coming back to my blog site. It truly means a lot to me and then some. 

Before I wave goodbye to the month of May, I’d like to focus on the power of forgiveness.

I recently went to an event out in Brooklyn where this topic came up. A lot of old wounds and trauma sprang up for me. Instead of shying away from talking about who or what that last hurt me, I decided to talk about it. I never realized how much of a toll it took on me when I began to notice how tense I instantly felt. 

I didn’t realize how quick I was in the past to forgive people. I never really took the time to process those thoughts nor did I grant myself the opportunities to do so. As a result of that, I became more depressed and unhappy with the way in which I didn’t warrant my feelings at the time.


Thus, I’ve decided to take it upon myself to say: Don’t be so quick to forgive an individual(s) when and if you need time to process your feelings. 

I needed to be able to forgive myself above all else before I handed out forgiveness cards to others. 

It’s crucial for me to point out that it’s important to say: “I’m not ready to forgive yet.”

By indicating this or the like, you’re allowing yourself to fully place your feelings on the forefront. Granted, you may not feel ready to address how you might be feeling at that very moment but showcasing this will give you the foundation for learning how to evoke your feelings.

As for me, learning how to forgive myself was and continues to be a process for me. I didn’t realize how hard I was on myself until I thought about all the times I never truly forgave me. The real healing and processing began when I started to apologize to myself for all the things I couldn’t change or how I felt in my past circumstances.

I say all of this and then some to simply state: The true power behind forgiving someone is having the ability to wholeheartedly forgive yourself.


Before I close off this blog post, just know that I too am still struggling with forgiving myself at times. It takes moments of being alone with your thoughts and acceptance/ you honoring your feelings.

Moving forward, I fully intend on taking as much time as I need to continuously practice the true art of forgiveness.

What has this month of May shown or taught you? What are you looking forward to in June?

Let me know in the reply section below and I’ll catch you in the next blog post.

Till next time,




Published by Magz

TakemetotheHeights is a blog curated by Magz, a Brooklynite with Dominican roots stemming from both mom and dad. Currently, she spends her time working with children, taking courses for her Masters in Early Childhood Special Education, all the while chasing her wild dreams of fashion design and fashion marketing. TakemetotheHeights style blog is her reflection and admiration towards fashion as she pays homage to Crown Heights. Despite the negative connotations people may paint about areas like Crown Heights, Magz saw it was best to truly capture the essence and beauty of it all.

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